Author: Kim Scott
Cheers Factor: 3/5
Pairing: Canned Peach Bellini by Infinite Monkey Theorem
This fun little canned cocktail is great for this book because it’s light and airy, but also makes you feel like a bad mamajamma. Plus the color of this can match the color of the book jacket which believe it or not is hard to do with those colors of orange.
Scott was a faculty member at Apple University and worked at Google for AdSense so she has experience working with teams. She also worked very closely with Sheryl Sandberg who wrote Lean In which I have reviewed on this site and will link down below.
I really enjoyed reading this title even though a lot of it’s not necessarily applicable to my life right now. A lot of the focus of the book is about how to better work in a professional setting as a leader and some of the advice is to the employees as well. One of the parts I found incredibly interesting is when Scott quotes the 1996 movie Jerry Maguire starring Tom Cruise. There’s a line in the movie where Cuba Gooding Jr.’s character says to Tom Cruise’s character, “you think we’re fighting, I think we’re finally talking”. I felt this resonated with my own experiences of working with a team. I spent a year in 2019 on my sorority’s executive council and before you make any assumptions about it, I will be the first to say yes it was a sorority, but it was also real work. I ran the finances for the organization and handled a 6 figure budget while also handling a department as well as managing the house and working with general members. It was no small feat that taught me a lot personally about what it means to work with people that have different leadership styles, thoughts and opinions than you may have.
In this section of her novel Scott writes about how the Jerry Maquire quote resonated with her when she was working at Google. It’s very accurate in my own experience too. I am best friends with the woman who served as our president while I ran finances and we fought fairly consistently throughout the entirety of our term. I preface this by saying that friend Ashlyn and Sarah were not fighting just exec Ashlyn and Sarah because there is a difference and separating friendship from before with our work relationship definitely helped us to remain friends after. Anyway, but my point to that is we spent a lot of time not talking about important aspects of our jobs until we were fighting about them. We spent hours talking in person and on the phone about all of these issues it became all consuming. Although the fighting felt, at times, aggressive we were actually making decisions and resolving our problems. We were able to disagree and “fight” about it in order to resolve the problems that we needed to fix. Again I’m not saying fight it out to the death for your opinions at the expense of others, but also stand up for your opinions and fight for what you believe is best. However, more importantly concede and compromise when you are wrong or see a better option. I felt it was important to share this story because it’s crucial to know where your relationships start and end and how to separate them whether that’s a work relationship to a friendship or a love driven relationship to a partnership because there is a difference. Sarah and I fought like a married couple that’s house was going into foreclosure, but I never loved her any less because friend Ashlyn and Sarah would still go to each other's rooms right after fighting and ask to grab dinner together. Not all fights have to be true fights and they shouldn’t be, they can be talking and you can come out stronger at the end with a clear path to start down.
“Blaming people’s external essence rather than their external behavior leaves no room for change.”
Each book here at Cheers&Chapters is rated based off of certain categories that are genre specific, however every book will get a Cheers Factor. The Cheers Factor is how much we wanted to raise our glass while reading it. So get your glasses ready and cheers!